Ask people to do something that’s crucial for their health, their stomach or their sex life and they’ll drop everything and do it right away. 

Anything else? Good luck getting it done anytime soon. 

There’s always time for scrolling and watching TV. Yoga classes and reading endless self help books. Another news notification or LinkedIn comment to reply to.

But something to work on that’s hard to achieve, really important and has a lifelong impact if you can work it out? Bottom of the list.

Lack of purpose

Those who say they haven’t got time for the important stuff in life don’t understand what avoiding it really means. They’re drifting through each day. They lack purpose and goals. They’re putting everyone and everything else in life before themselves.

If you tell everyone you’re always busy, you really need to have a look at how you spend your time. 

Are you honestly flat-out for 8 to 10 hours a day working? I think not. 

It sounds cool to be busy. 

People act impressed when we say that we’re under the pump, but rarely is this busy with stuff that’s getting us closer to our personal goals. 

We put all that off because, of course, we’re too busy. “I haven’t got time.”

Time is easy to find

If you were given a free, all-expenses-paid holiday for three weeks leaving in three hours time and you had to complete your work before you left, you’d get it done. 

If someone close to you was about to die and you had the chance to see them before they passed away, you’d be there. 

So why don’t you go to the gym and work out when you say you will? 

Why do you eat the wrong stuff when you know you shouldn’t? 

Why do you skip meditation, don’t clean your teeth, or go to bed an hour later than you know you should?

The priority is not you

It’s because to you, you’re not the priority. You’re bottom of your list and everyone and everything else is above you. 

You have time for client calls and meetings about meetings and emails – endless emails.

But your growth and wellbeing? Your health and wellness? It always comes second.

And then you wonder why you suffer. Why you have issues with anger and anxiety.

Top of your list

Getting some order in your life will help. Start with a calendar and go from there. 

But first, take it even further back. Ask yourself why you’re not top of your list every single day. 

Solve that one and things will gradually get better.