Tell people what you like about them.
Let people know how you feel about the positive things they do.
People don’t know this about themselves unless we tell them. So tell them. Be open about it.
And it’ll probably come back. Your friends will reciprocate.
The good vibes will spread.
What’s not to like about that?
Came across this excellent learning resource for all things AI, focussed on busy professionals looking to get ahead of the crowd quickly and efficiently.
Section – the business behind the training – is backed by best-selling author, NYU Professor of Marketing and podcaster Scott Galloway.
His work stands out in the world we live in today as forward thinking, a challenge to the status quo, and a call to action for people glued to their screens looking forward to little more than minimum wage work (and lots of it) for years to come.
Upskilling and lifelong learning are more than just buzzwords. They’re the way to stand out, get better opportunities and earn more over time.
Get involved. It’s never too late to start.
When I walk side-by-side with someone, or drive with them in a car, the conversation tends to flow better.
I’m not certain why. Maybe because it feels less confrontational, not looking straight at the other person.
Some great ideas have come this way. It could be that there’s the element of an added ‘journey’ you’re both sharing.
There’s also a clear start and finish. The conversation can’t be the same once the journey is over. You’re in a different time and space.
Fighting. Throwing hands, not the mouthing off at people version. There’s a lot to be said for knowing some basic skills.
Last week, a 78 year old guy stopped me and Scott as we were training for a knife attack in the basement of our apartment block. He told us he knew his onions, and within a couple of minutes he was demonstrating his favourite side kick.
He knew what he was doing. He had an aura, some kind of inner confidence that made it clear he was ok defending himself. He was ready.
He’s got a blank stare, the kind guys in jail have, and that was all I had ever noticed before. But now I can see what’s happening behind those dead eyes. He’s staying calm, assessing the situation. He’s looking out for what’s coming next – maybe a fist, maybe not.
These skills are things you carry with you in the hope that you’ll never have to use them. I hope I never have to front up to someone, ready to go, in defence of myself, my wife, or anyone else under attack.
Things happen fast when tempers flare. Words are said. Things can escalate quickly. People right now are under a lot of stress, even here in a chilled out place like Sydney.
If someone attacked you, what would you do? How would you get away from an attacker, for example? If all hell breaks loose around you, what’s your first move?
A basic plan, even something as simple as a rapid knee to the groin and run away as fast as you can, can go a long way.
Take that up a notch and think about classes in all forms of self defence. Krav Maga, Jiu Jitsu, whatever. When that moment happens, you’ll be glad you made the choice to start learning. It’s never wasted effort.
Stuff that’s scary, like hitting ‘publish’ on a deep, dark post that comes from the very depths of our souls, fills us with fear. The imposter jumps out on us, screaming that we’ll be ‘found out’, that our stuff is ‘nonsense’, and that nobody’s going to read it no matter how cool we think it is.
We moan about having no time. “If only I had the discipline…” must be said by so many wannabe writers and creatives. Our handheld procrastination device, full of the stuff we don’t need, pinging at us when it needs attention, is always by our side.
It’s no wonder we rarely act on that desire to do that ‘thing’.
I used to read Julien Smith’s blog in the early 00’s when I lived in the US. This particular post caught my attention as I sat at a big desk in a bigger office, bored out of my tiny mind. I printed it out. (The image of the horse jumping from the balcony has always stayed with me.)
I’ve referred back to it, and a few of his other ‘slaps to the face’, when I’ve caught myself navel gazing, feeling stuck. At the core of it is the fact that we all worry too much what other people think, and that the sooner we act on what we believe is right through telling the truth, OUR truth, a new chapter begins.
And this is the point here – whatever your ‘thing’ is, get into action by getting past your fear and start delivering.
What’s the worst thing that could happen? You could actually be good at it, people could like it and it could work out brilliantly.
This isn’t likely to be the case – let’s get real here – but the best had to start somewhere. And you do, too.
My time is tight. A full-on job plus part time study. I run or work out daily and fit golf in whenever the study slows down. I have a stack of unread books that grows weekly.
I wanted to take things out rather than add anything new, but the opportunity to coach a women’s soccer team came up, so I took the plunge and it’s a lot of fun.
I’m also inspired to write again (thanks Dr Taylor!) and deliver with consistency – the piece of the puzzle that, for me, remains elusive. But it’s far from impossible.
Let’s put it to the test.
Use a simple metric such as the one in the title above to review your day.
Think in terms of what you did and give it a ‘yes’ or ‘no’.
No need for fancy spreadsheets or other tools for this. Not even a notebook. Do it in your head if that’s all you’ve got to work with.
But don’t avoid it. Making notes and tracking your progress every day will be useful.
Over time, you can add categories. Maybe you did a run which boosts your health but you didn’t read that chapter you committed to.
Taking action is what this is all about. It’s a simple and effective process when it’s done over time.
Yes or no, every day, over and over.
You’ll get a feel for what’s working, what’s a success or what might need to change.
Track things that mean the most to you and you won’t go too far wrong.
Your habits define you.
This is a strong one to build.
You’re sat next to someone on a flight.
They ask good questions, listen to your answers carefully, and you build a great conversation together.
You find that you’ve got some shared interests. You get a good feeling while talking to them.
Has this ever happened to you?
They’re interested in other people. They allow them to talk, rather than feeling the need to share their own life story at the earliest opportunity.
They make you feel heard, understood.
When it’s their turn to speak, they’re open about their own experiences. They have stories to tell and they’re happy to tell them but they don’t drone on and on.
They keep the ball moving. The balance between listening and speaking is just right.
They’re the interesting ones.
It takes patience and practice to develop this skill, but it’s a valuable one.
Make an effort to be interesting and the investment will pay off over time.
The groundwork for a future focussed on achievement of any kind is built on one thing.
Discipline.
It’s about creating daily habits that develop into strengths over time.
The task is usually something that doesn’t come easy. That you have to work hard at.
Mine’s writing. No doubt about that at all.
For others it’s maybe reading. Or lifting weights. It can be anything.
What’s yours?
You’re stronger than you think.
Dig in.
If you want to quit, go again.
Don’t stop believing. You’ll find the power you need.
Weekends are precious. They are the time to relax, recharge and have some fun. But they can also be the time to get things done and learn some new skills.
How can you have a productive weekend without feeling overwhelmed or stressed?
Here are some tips:
Give these tips a try. New skills take some effort but the payoff is real.
Fear is an illusion that stops us from pursuing our dreams.
The only way to overcome fear is to take action. Action creates momentum, confidence, and results.
Here are some tips to take action despite fear:
Remember that fear is normal and natural. It’s a sign that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone, growing as a person.
Don’t let fear stop your progress.
Act today. Watch your dreams come true.
Each day, we all show up for work. The job is the constant, whether we like it or not.
Move the ball forwards. Even a small amount, just move the ball.
There are two balls here – mine and the one belonging to my employer. Whoever pays my cheques.
Each one needs that daily movement.
This is how you stay employed and employable. Both balls moving means you are learning. You are doing your job and devloping your skills.
Move each ball. Apply effort and time to it. It doesn’t fail as a long term strategy.
Here are six ways you can increase your personal impact, no matter what you do.
They’re taken from a 2014 Tom Peters slide deck I printed and bound because it was so useful. I pick it up and walk through it periodically. Even time I open the pages, the words pop off the page. They never get old.
I’ll also add another one – master politics. If you can understand how politics works and the role it plays in all aspects of our lives, you’ll have an advantage over the majority of people you work and play with.
Which one are you going to start working on first?
A beautiful spot.
It takes guts to stand up to bad people. The same applies to problems of any kind.
The insecurity we feel when we realise what’s going on, the nerves about what will happen, begin to build. We go through every “what if…?” scenario at 100 mph.
Some people in this spot decide to hide away, playing in the shadows. It gives them a chance to cover their tracks, hoping this is enough to kill the scent.
But it never is.
You’ve gotta own up and face the problem head on. Your weaknesses are obvious to all at this point. Vulnerability here is the path to strength.
Be humble. Admit you’ve made a mistake if that’s the case. Admit you don’t know what to do. Ask for help and listen when the feedback arrives, no matter how tough that might be under the circumstances.
Get the job done. Then go find another one. Use the improvements from this episode to reach new levels.
Onwards, always to better things, with a chunk of learning about yourself in your pocket.
I just checked out the caffeine in a pack of Berocca Boost. Wow, it’s wild. That 75mg shot will jack you up for a few hours, no doubt. But how can you imporve your energy levels and not have to resort to the artificial approach?
Sleep
Making sure you get enough is massive. Your body can go for days on end with no food and little water but take away sleep and you’ll stop functioning.
Get to bed at a smart hour, say 10pm, for a week. Keep your devices out of the bedroom so there’s no temptation to check them. Set a challenge to wake up at the same time every day for a week, aiming to make it stick. That’s a great start to forming good sleep habits.
Diet
Caffeine stays in your system for as much as eight hours. That cappuccino after dinner, or the piccolo to get you through the afternoon, makes it impossible for your sleep schedule to work.
Processed foods are a big negative factor, too. The hidden fats and sugars they contain make it harder for your body to digest them, using up additional energy. Hit the fruit and veg hard for a week. Maybe start the day with a smoothie. Your brain and body will feel the benefits instantly.
Screen time
Staring at screens increases stress levels and stops you from interacting with the world. It kills your efficiency stone dead. Can you cut it down?
Less focus on screens improves your sleep for starters, giving your better quality rest. If you can shut screens down for an hour before you get into bed, you’ll also decrease stimulation sources and naturally relax before you hit the sack.
I’m no doctor and this is generic advice. Please consult the pros if this is something you have big problems with. Your energy supplies are limited so do what you can to support yourself each day. A small change or two can go a long way.
Scrolling is a death spiral. Anything you’re working on disappears from your mind. The plot gets lost.
All that replaces the work is someone else’s life or a product you don’t need. Those best bits of the lives of others, served up in that never-ending fire hose of content.
We all get blasted by it. Anyone who says they haven’t – they can deal with it, it’s under control – is not being truthful. It’s like being on a water slide. All that can stop you once you take off is the smash into the pool at the bottom.
The remorse after any amount of time spent scrolling is hard to take. I put Instagram back on my phone about one month ago. Already I can feel its hooks are firmly embedded. I’m in, posting a little and consuming a lot, just they way they like it.
And, boy, do those five minute blocks add up. Between YouTube and Instagram I’m averaging nine hours a week. The waste of that amount of time is tangible. It’s painful to see the facts, whatever level of control I imagine I have.
The challenge is to now do something about it.
Take your own audit of how the scroll affects you. The results might spur you on to some positive changes. If you can go from consuming to producing content, for example, putting those scrolling hours to good use, things could be different.
When the call to the big leagues arrives, you want to be at your best. Your skills in whatever you do for a living will get you to the top eventually. They can, however, also work against you if you’ve not got them primed and ready at all times.
Do you want to be more efficient than your colleagues? Are you struggling to stand out in your team and get ahead? By learning skills we all use every day to a proficiency level beyond the basic, it won’t be hard.
If you open Excel every three months, you’ll be rusty at best for the first few minutes. If you need a pivot table or some conditional formatting, you’ll be browsing YouTube for tips. The clock will be ticking. Stress will build.
Instead, do a bit of research. What are the top ten things you do everyday that you can improve at? Do you open PowerPoint occasionally but often need a deck in a hurry? Is simple business writing a big part of your job, proof reading and rewriting reports, or sending emails about emails?
Think about what you can work on that will increase your output speed or improve your overall skill level. (Business writing excellence, by the way, is a lost art, so if you make this your goal, you’ll be in high demand.)
We build muscles by training. The same rules apply here, too. Make a plan to practice often by using mini-projects (writing blog posts, maybe?) and having the apps you need open, or the tools close to hand, all the time. Sharpen that sword with regular effort. The benefits will compound over time.
When a project kicks off and the call goes out for a skillset that the team is lacking or doesn’t have in depth, you’ll be ready. Put your hand up and you’ll get the chance to shine. Your contribution will stand out. You’ll deliver at speed with little stress because you’re in control.
And next time the need arises, who’s name will be top of the list? You’ll be remembered for volunteering, for doing an excellent job, and for being efficient – a most-wanted skill when the pressure is on.
Take a few courses. Watch a few YouTube videos. The notes you make and that handful of shortcuts and practice presentations hiding on your hard drive could get you more than you bargained for.
I was chatting to someone at the office the other day. We got deep quickly on the topic of a mutual coworker – someone with a few issues in their life.
They are bleeding all over the rest of us with their sighs and “it’s all too hard…” comments about the job, leading to some poor performance. The slack created has to be picked up, of course, so no-one’s happy about it.
The chat goes downhill fast. It becomes a pile-on. Within minutes, we’ve gone way beyond anything uplifting or light and down into the murky waters.
By the end of it, we’re all stirred up. Our own productivity levels drop through the floor. The blame for this is clear, too – definitely nothing to do with us… we’re perfect!
But we are to blame.
The chat is gossip that takes us downhill faster than a black run. The decision to avoid the idle banter and stay focussed on the job sets those who get stuff done apart.
Step away. Do something else. Don’t take the bait. Stay in a positive frame of mind rather than taking the easy path and teeing off on someone who could be in real trouble.
It never ends well for those who love this kind of behaviour. The gossip kings and queens are not the ones to hang out with. Build a relationship with them, as with everyone at work, but don’t join them when the sourness takes over.
Rise above it. Be the one who leads the team in the right direction.
Don’t add fuel to the fire. Let it burn out.
Just because something’s easy doesn’t make it right. A career you find easy might not be the ideal path over the long term.
One of my big mistakes from the last 35 years is not getting stuck into a career I enjoyed. I didn’t have a trade, a skill I could develop over time. I could get by without certifications and additional study. I made good money but the ceiling was low. Once I hit it, all I could see was 30 more years of the same. No thanks.
When the pressure is off, motivation is hard to come by. Skills get stale. Money flows but the drive to improve disappears (or at least it did for me).
I’ve now gone deep rather than wide in the area I work in – cyber security. It involves study to improve and the bar keeps getting higher. I wanted a career where some study effort would pay off. There are endless study paths, and it can take a while to find the right path for your own interests, but I’ve found it now. Doors are starting to open.
My purpose for this effort is to grow skills and rise through the ranks. As always, studying on your own time is a pain, but if the purpose is clear and you’ve got that motivation, good things happen.
When you’re making plans for the long term, keep this in mind. Economic security and a skill you’ve developed over the years will keep you on the up.
Ian Mountford 