I’ve spent a lot of time over the years wracking my brain for ideas. Money has been short and I’ve had to find something new to sell, or I’ve hit a brick wall on a particular project and it’s time to refresh, and so on.
The answer has normally come from within. As I’ve solved my own problems, it’s the answers that I’ve found along the way that have eventually become new services.
This hasn’t always been a steady linear sequence from idea to cash. It has taken years in a couple of cases for the idea to finally bear fruit. But the answers to my own questions have been helpful to a lot of other people, too.
The resources we have at our disposal today (the internet), it should never be a problem to find a new direction or solution, or so you might think. I disagree.
There is so much already out there and there is nothing new. Everything has been done before. The internet is full of the same solutions, styled to suit a different market or customer. So looking inside ourselves and solving our own problems is a good place to start.
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Showing up is a huge part of any ‘process’
A lot gets made of the ‘process’. It’s put out there to be some mystical way of achieving your goals in every aspect of life.
It’s the ‘Way’, the ‘Tao’ or whatever literal meaning you want to give to the things that happen to you as a result of your actions and energy being spent on something specific.
Those who master the process are said to have some claim to success or achievement on a grand scale. They’ve found the path to glory and riches, or whatever defines this title in their own lives.
They’ve done it. It’s all behind them now. High-fives all round!
I believe there is a process but we all have a different version of it. It’s something we control only through our thinking as this defines our actions and the results we get.
I also believe that the most crucial part of this whole process is the hardest of all – showing up.
The act of being present when it comes to the difficult and important things in life is never easy.
I get attacked by the dual forces of resistance and procrastination the minute I sit down to a task that fits this category.
I suddenly feel the need to do almost anything rather than get started. A raft of other jobs come to mind as more important.
Sometimes I end up doing them instead of the big one but this is rare. And it’s rare because I always tell myself I’ve got through the biggest hurdle – I’ve shown up.
This gives me the spirit to then go forwards with confidence.
I’ve got over that hurdle and it’s time for action. The spirits pop out of nowhere to guide me on my merry way because I’ve made a solid commitment and I’m ready for whatever comes next.
And then good things happen.
If you struggle to achieve what you know deep in your heart that you’re truly capable of, this simple step might be the bridge you need.
See if it works for you, too. It’s a good feeling to get to the other side…
Practical Steps To Bounce Back From Lockdown
We can’t avoid the problems that this COVID-19 situiation is causing for us all around the world and the pain of the families of those who have died or are suffering at this moment can’t be understated.
Taking a few practical steps to stay active, physically and mentally, right now is a good place to start if you’re feeling significant stress or have lost your source of income, for example.
But there are also some specific things that you can do in this period to come out on the other side of it in a strong position, especially when it comes to your business or your own personal brand online.
Show up
Do everything you can to help those around you in your online community in whatever form that takes. Zoom calls, Facebook messages, phone calls, whatever. As much action spent on this in the coming weeks will be remembered by those who needed a pick-me-up or a happy face on the other end of the line.
Posting helpful tips and advice to your community also makes a lot of sense. Demonstrate your expertise and the depth of your skills and experience as much as you can.
Work on your profiles.
Take some time to audit every profile you have online today. Does it accurately reflect who you are and what you do? If it’s LinkedIn, are your contact details correct? Do you need an updated profile pic? Go through every one you have and make sure they’re all tip top.
Self improvement
It’s a great time to do some learning. Courses from top universities around the world are free on sites like Coursera so take the first step and sign up for something that can take your skills to a new level. And if you are looking to make a career change or have hit a roadblock in your career, this is the time to road test a few new subjects.
We will all come out of this process in a different way, but be sure to do all that you can to move yourself forwards during this time and keep a positive frame of mind. Let’s hope it’s resolved soon enough!
Learnings from the last couple of years
A long time has gone by since I last wrote here, and a few things in life have changed, so here we are…
We are living in Australia as permanent residents and we are striving to build a solid foundation for ourselves. My business is growing and there are now three of us in the team, and as I continue to drive this business growth I’ve had a few things in the back of my mind, helping with the steering.
I’ll share them below in no particular order. Some are attributed to a couple the people that I read and follow for guidance and inspiration, but not all:
- The more genuine your interest in other people, the more people trust you.
- The better you are at listening, the more people want to spend time with you.
- Be precise in what you say (Jordan Peterson).
- Be very careful what you wish for as it will come to you in time.
- Remember people’s names if you can and use them.
- Let others save face. Don’t drop them off the cliff unless you have no choice.
- Be somebody by doing something.
- Become an expert and work harder at this than anything else in your life.
- Our minds control everything we do.
- Our attitudes will always define our results and outcomes in life.
- Do things that are hard, often.
- Save money and build a stack before making investments.
- Think like the seasons (from Jim Rohn) – be ready for them, plant seeds and work hard to grow them.
- Stay cool and shut up.
- Struggle teaches us who we really are. Accept the struggle that is life.
- Improve what you’re not happy with. Obsess on the things you have to improve.
- The easy option = bad results.
- Honesty is the way to progress.
- Get people on payroll doing things they are great at and that you can’t do.
- Negativity will bring you down in the end. It repels all things.
- Build self confidence through small daily actions done well to then rise above your circumstances and achieve more.
- If you think you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re likely to be the opposite.
- Massive action taken towards a goal gets results.
- Patience, passivity and caution are killers for anyone entrepreneurial.
- Find your why. It will drive you through bad times and keep you focused.
- Know the way broadly and achieve in many things (Musashi).
The best communicators have all these things in common
- They look at things from a new angle, taking unexpected points of view on a familiar subject.
- They have broad horizons. They think about and talk about a wide range of issues and experiences from beyond their own daily lives.
- They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they are doing with their lives and an interest in what you’re saying to them at that moment.
- They don’t talk about themselves all the time.
- They are curious. They ask ‘Why?’ and they want to know more about what you’re telling them.
- They empathise. They try to put themselves in your place to relate to what you’re saying.
- They have a sense of humour and they don’t mind using it on themselves. The best conversationalists frequently tell stories about themselves.
- They have their own style of talking.
Which one of these would you rank as the most important?
Celebrate your successes in 2016
Before we get stuck into 2017 and all the joys of January and the start of a fresh year, it’s important to take some time to reflect on the year that has just passed and the things that we have achieved.
Celebrating the victories, large and small, is a must. We don’t do this enough in my opinion and it helps to motivate us to deliver on the next big thing in front of us. Don’t dwell for too long but pay attention to what was tough and what challenges you overcame to get the job done.
This year for me has been a big one – a change of work focus, a move to a new country, completion of some really great project work for clients in four countries and a couple more medals for running events that I didn’t think I’d be able to do when I ruined my knee in 2012. I also completed the longest bike tour I’ve ever attempted, up and down some of the hills of South Wales, so it’s been another good one on all fronts.
Just typing this out brings home to me the positivity around getting things done and making things happen, so why don’t you give it a try? And once it’s done, start your 2017 planning with some confidence that you can (and will) deliver again in the New Year.
Stop procrastinating and get things done
Get on with doing the things that really matter in your life. None of us know how long we have left and wishing you had a great life full of interesting friends and all the things you ever wanted won’t come by sitting on the sofa.
- Ideas are everywhere but you’ve got to do the work to make them into something that matters. Execute on those ideas and you’ll see good things happen in time.
- What we focus on most becomes our idea of reality – use this power to get things done through focussing hard every day on what you want.
- What time of the day do you feel most energised and do your best work? If it’s 6am to midday, set your working day around this slot and deliver the goods.
- Do everything you can to stay positive. Don’t look back too long on past failures. Look forward and focus on your strengths.
- Don’t worry about what people think. My first business was a dating agency and everyone I knew told me I was I mad for launching it but I gained more from creating and running this business than any other in my life to date. If you believe it’s the right thing to do and worth the risk, get on with it.
- If you’re feeling some fear and that’s what’s stopping you, work out exactly what it is and try and understand what you’re afraid of. What are your true intentions? How much do you want it? In most cases, your fears won’t amount to much and it’s time to get to work.
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“I just can’t do this. I haven’t got anything to say”.
I’ve heard this come out of many mouths when I’ve talked to them about social media. It can seem a very daunting task to put your thoughts out there, into the public sphere, and all of your fears about making mistakes and ‘looking bad’ do tend to rise to the surface. It’s a very common excuse, though – one of quite a few on this list but you’ll be pleased to know that it’s also very easy to overcome.
The value in using social tools as a business comes from demonstrating to readers/viewers that you know your stuff as the starting point. There is information in your head that you might think of as mundane and not of much interest to others, but this is the stuff that people will learn from and connect with. You’ve got to think about what kind of information will be useful to the reader, however dull it might seem to you. Whatever your trade or profession, there is information that you have in your head that might be hugely useful to others so think about how you can make this knowledge start to work for you.
Another angle that always reads well is your own personal experience. If you were to think back through the experiences that have defined your career and then document the path your career has taken through the years, you could come up with some interesting details. Think of the people who have had the biggest impression on your career and also the biggest changes in your sector through the years, plus how you and those around you have adapted. Try commenting on where you feel your industry is heading in line with the overall macroeconomic picture and the turbulent times we live in today – there is a lot of data available at places like this and this so think about how best you can turn this into useful information for your followers.
Once you’re delivering some good work and getting more comfortable with putting your thoughts online, it could then be interesting to start to ask for input from your readers and approach a few more controversial topics with an eye on encouraging some debate. Ask readers for their opinions and encourage comments to build some engagement, being sure to reply to all comments to let readers know you are listening. You don’t need to start any fires – they can be damaging and very, very tricky to put out when they get going – but think about hot topics in the press/media that have relevance to your subject area and decide on an angle to take that will polarise opinion and get the reactions you’re looking for.
If you’re still struggling after reading this far, give me a shout and i’ll see what I can do to help you.
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What’s the style that’s going to make you successful?
Spend half an hour on Twitter (or less) and you will be able to identify the way people operate and how you would define them to someone else. It could be video content – lots of it – or it could be the way they interact and respond to the comments of their followers and start a debate on a daily basis. It could be their stunning photography or it could be their longer posts that tell amazingly detailed stories.
So what makes a style successful? It’s really down to you to find what feels comfortable and delivers the best results. Experiment with a few things before deciding that you’re going to be doing all of your work on video, for instance, especially if you’ve never done anything to camera in your life. That $1,000 Canon SLR might get a lot of attention from your creative friends but it might be gathering dust pretty fast if your videos don’t hit the mark.
Once you have put some content together and are sharing it on a regular basis, you should listen to the opinions of others you trust and take their feedback on board. It might mean that some time spent trying out another style is worth a try but it might also mean that you’re pointing in exactly the right direction, so don’t be afraid to ask in the first place.
When you find the style that fits you best, it’s time to build on these strengths and take some bold and confident steps. Aim your writing towards controversial subjects or take on more ambitious projects if you are creating video content. Use templates to build infographics into your work or create some some graphics to go at the beginning and end of your video to enhance the style you are developing and also help to build your brand with your audience.
Whatever it is that you’ve begun to deliver, create a plan to help keep you motivated and ensure you know where you’re going. But above all else, keep delivering, be ambitious and work as hard as you can and the success will come.
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Pushing through Mondays
For a lot of people, Mondays can be tough. Back to jobs you don’t like, working on things you don’t care about after weekends spent having fun and spending time with friends or watching all of your favourite shows on tv.
This is all great and I’m fine with this if you are happy with your lot, but so many people simply are not happy. Their complaints about Monday and how bad life is for them show they are just not seeing what is going on around them.
Most people reading this are based in the western world and live in a modern economy where jobs and opportunity are plentiful. If you are not happy with your life on a Monday and live for Friday night when you can finish work for the weekend, something is very wrong. Make some changes and get yourself back on track – in the world we live in today, you can do ANYTHING and it’s simply all down to you.
Why are you not happy? Do you want more ‘things’ in your life? Fancy cars and clothes and a new, more impressive phone maybe? Do you know what happiness means to you in your life, even? Have you taken stock and sat down to actually work out what it means to you? I suggest you do, and fast.
If you do this, you will make sure that your life is a happy one and empty of regrets. You will be honest with yourself and spend as much time as you can doing the things that make you happy and make them the real focus of your life. You will work out what your strengths are and put the maximum effort you can on these things. Every day will be the same because you are happy with where your life is going and what you do on any day of the week will be driving you towards the biggest goals in your life. How happy will you be when you achieve these goals? Massively, of course!
Turn off your tv and get to work on the definition of your future happiness and then make a plan to deliver it through hard work and laser-like focus. Be honest with yourself and good things will happen. Back yourself and let other people complain about their weaknesses (and yours, too) as you focus entirely on your greatest assets, your strengths. Do this and Mondays will become another day where the opportunities you have in front of you become clearer and clearer. Same as every other day.
The Brand Called ‘You’
Tom Peters wrote this seminal article for Fast Company magazine a long time ago but it remains relevant, share-worthy and full of important justification for putting the effort into developing your own brand, whoever you are and whatever you do.
Read it here: https://www.fastcompany.com/28905/brand-called-you
The quick-read:
- Big companies know that their brand matters and spend zillions on standing out
- Become the CEO of ‘Me Inc.’
- The web makes it easy for you to make your branding work through lighting up your efforts
- Make your own plan and write your own pitch – what do you do that adds value?
- Market it HARD and OFTEN, any/every which way you can
- When you’ve built your brand, use the power it can give you, e.g. bigger, better projects
- Every once in a while, reinvent yourself – new goals and ideas, new definitions of success? GO!!!!
Making a noise is only half the battle
Many businesses have kicked off their social media activity and then struggled to make the impact that everyone keeps telling them they should be. They are sharing pictures of their plush offices or the Friday morning bacon rolls on a very regular basis, also posting the ‘deal of the week’ or the odd bit of industry-specific information here and there, then waiting for the phone to ring with new sales and enquiries from customers and clients.
The reality is that it takes a lot more than this to make the right kind of impact and the work is in not only creating content and shouting loudly about it, but building communities around this content and growing loyalty and trust in those who follow you and your brand.
Think about car alarms. If you’re in a city centre, there is hardly a day goes by when you don’t hear one going off. When was the last time you actually stopped what you were doing and said, “Wow, listen to that car alarm! I’m going to go and find out where it is and see what’s going on”? When they were first developed, the sound of one blasting would often cause a commotion with a crowd gathering around the car to see what the problem was, but after a while, as people got used to the sound and frequency of alarms going off, they began to be ignored.
The noise generated by social media is now starting to work in the same way. Most businesses have their website, Facebook page and Twitter account and a great deal of fuss is made about the content that is created in the early days of their online presence. But as time goes by and the level of contact and engagement with followers on a regular basis dwindles, so do the interest of followers and the impact of the page decreases. That key marketing message you want to share to your followers six months down the line of creating your pages becomes just another car alarm and falls on deaf ears.
Chris Brogan and Julien Smith, whose ideas have shaped the way we interact online as businesses and consumers, wrote ‘The Impact Equation’ back in 2012 and its key premise still holds true today, perhaps even more so – we need to be thinking about a mix of things to make people truly care about what we have to say when communicating with them online. A good idea will get us so far, but add an audience that trusts you and a following that can help spread our ideas and we are much more likely to make the kind of impact that gets results.
Take this idea to your own digital marketing efforts and think about where you are right now. Are you engaging with those who follow you and building their trust in your products and services over and over again? Are you regularly communicating your ideas to your followers or only when you have time? And do you have followers who actually read your content rather than just pass it by in their bulging news feed? If you feel you are hitting the right spot on all of these points with your target audience, well done and keep it going! But if you would like some help in getting better results than you are today, let’s talk about how I can help.
Picking the right tools and platforms for you and your business
The pressure to start using social media to promote yourself and your goods and services is coming from all angles. If you aren’t posting pictures on Instagram, are you going to miss out? If you don’t have 10,000 Twitter followers, are you going to be less successful than other competitors who do? How do you decide which platforms and tools are best for you and which ones will give you the best results for your time and effort?
The first thing to assess is where you live online for your personal profiles. If you are a happy Facebook user who is comfortable with the way that it works and you post a solid stream of updates there on a fairly regular basis, it might make sense for you to add a business page to Facebook and use it to build your business profile. If you have never used Twitter, don’t really understand how it works and find it hard to write short posts, jumping into Twitter for your business may not really make sense. Best to stay where you are comfortable while you are starting out and then try more things later when you are more confident.
Next, consider what kind of content you are going to be producing as this will have a big effect on the tools you use to deliver great results. If you’re an accountant, it’s unlikely that you will produce a lot of photos of your work and it is much more likely that you will be writing a lot of ‘how to’-type posts. In this case, jumping straight onto Instagram and creating a profile there may not be the wisest move to make and a WordPress blog supported by a Twitter account to enable sharing with your followers may make much more sense.
It would also pay huge dividends to look at your competitors and other key players in your sector and identify what is working really well for them. Using infographics to share highly factual and statistic-heavy chunks of information could mean that Instagram is worth a try but it might also be relevant to look at using infographics with lots of colour and images as one-off posts to give some variety to your written posts and draw in some new followers on a Facebook page. The competitor review is a key step in working out what is the best approach to take with the kind of people you are looking to engage with and will help you come up with a great plan. Results tend to be much stronger when you go to places where people are already engaged and then use similar tactics yourself than try to convert people to something new.
The key here is to avoid opening accounts on every platform in a rush to cover all bases and then use one account over all of the others and leave the rest to die a very slow and painful death. The other accounts will look very sad and empty when your customers or clients look you up online before deciding to do business with you and the impression you want to create is quite the opposite – regular, recent posts showcasing your products, knowledge, skills and services that encourage followers to learn more and start to engage with you and your brand.
Focus on the good stuff
The process of making change is one that can add levels of frustration, anxiety and straight-up fear to lives that are already highly stressed and this isn’t always a good thing. Illness can follow very quickly behind if the change isn’t properly managed, whatever it’s context, so avoiding this has to be a top priority.
Our move to Sydney is still in progress as the container carrying our belongings is not yet with us and, so far, we have thankfully had few problems. But Katherine did get sick after only a couple of days in the country and this was very likely due to the scale of the change we had undertaken and the unsettled nature of what was ahead of us over the next few weeks of looking for accommodation, settling into a job and a new city, etc.
The frustration around the change I am going through at the moment is about the pace of it. Life in Australia does go a whole lot slower than it does in the UK and this can be difficult when you have little patience and are ready to start something new. A phone call or email not being returned seems to increase the overall level of tension and the ability to stay patient pays huge dividends.
I try to solve these little problems by thinking of all the things that have worked out well over the last few weeks as we have moved our lives and there are lots of them. It’s always beneficial, to me, anyhow, to keep a focus on the good stuff and the positives that are around me instead of the negatives and this does seem to do the trick. The negatives come easy and are always there without looking too hard, but make an effort to see past them and the dark clouds will start to lift a little.
Copying the habits of the greats
Getting into good habits is a step towards greatness in any area – sport, work, healthy living, you name it. If you can hardwire yourself to get out of bed and head straight to the gym or read for half an hour, you’ll feel good about your start to the day and the positivity this brings, even when times are tough, is not to be underestimated.
I like to think about people who could be classed as ‘masters’ at what they do and try and think about the things they have become so masterful at. I ask myself how they have gained these skills and what I can do to mirror their training and apply it to my own life.
At the end of the day, these are people who live and breathe the same way that you and I do and so it can’t be all that hard to be as good as them, right? Well, yes, but, in practice, it’s all about the effort we are all prepared to make to attain the levels that these people have achieved and this is the true test.
I read a lot, as much as I can find, about those who are on my ‘masters’ list and there a lot of common traits they all share:
- hard, hard work from the moment they decided that they wanted to do whatever they did for ever more
- discipline and focus to levels that others would consider to be strange and not worth the effort
- determination to succeed in the face of doubters – colleagues, family, the press and media, etc.
- high quality outputs at all times from them or their teams or people that they lead
- political skills in order to handle difficulties that they come across as they navigate their work/non-work lives
- failures on many levels in home and work life – lost opportunities, mistakes, bad decisions, misjudgments, loss of friends, divorce and so on.
So, what’s there to learn here? To me, it’s all about learning as much as possible from the biographical stories of these people’s lives and trying to make use of the positive aspects in our own lives. Hard work, discipline and focus are always key determinants of anyone considered to be a success of some kind so these should be the starting point of focus. Give it a try for yourself by making a ‘masters’ list and see what you can learn along the way.
Feed your mind
What you eat and when can have a huge impact on your outputs and overall effectiveness. Getting proper rest is also critical if you’re going to get the best out of yourself.
Any kind of stimulant – caffeine, alcohol, sugar, etc – at the back end of the day can really wreck your ability to sleep naturally and eating foods high in sugar, for example, at the start of the day can also create energy peaks and troughs at times when you don’t really want them.
I’m no nutritionist but my wife has studied nutrition in depth and has a great understanding of what works and why because she has suffered over the years from ME/chronic fatigue syndrome – a really horrible illness. The number one issue that has helped her to get away from this illness and now lead a normal life has been diet and there are some simple things that you can do to help you keep your focus and deliver when you really need to.
1 – Do some exercise, even if it’s only a walk, on a regular basis. Daily is best but manage what you can, when you can and get into a habit.
2 – Go for natural products and avoid processed foods where possible. Highly processed foods contain loads of sugar and fat which are not good for you at all. Your body has to work hard to get them through your system where natural foods are absorbed much quicker and leave you feeling fuller (and eating less overall).
3 – Find a regular sleep pattern. The more you can get on a regular basis, the better but it’s not always possible and we all do have to have a life! Getting proper sleep can help you to feel more energised in the mornings and this is always good.
Make marginal gains work for you
If you can make small increases in performance in lots of different areas, you’ll make a huge difference in overall terms. This principal of ‘marginal gains’, coined by Sir Dave Brailsford, the leader of the Sky Pro Cycling team in the UK, has been used to great success in sports as well as other areas of life and business.
Think about a target such as getting up earlier in order to achieve more. Break it down into the things that affect sleep and make a plan around changing your actions and behaviour in these areas, e.g. don’t drink caffeine after a certain time in the evening, don’t take your devices to the bedroom with you, switching them off so you are not disturbed and create a time that you stick to religiously as your absolute maximum for being in bed and asleep.
The results on a task like this can be huge. It may sound a bit dull, especially with an example such as this, but the outputs from sports performance are incredible and if you apply this principle to your own work or life it can have a huge impact.










